If that person doesn’t want you, why would you?
There are usually two roles to play in a breakup (that is if you’re not poly, in which case there might be more than one) – the person who’s breaking up and the person who’s dumped.
There is no doubt that ending a relationship is difficult because it comes with guilt, shame and fear. But let’s be honest, of the two options, the ones who initiate the breakup are the lucky ones who have had weeks to prepare for the big finale. They aren’t the ones dealing with the shock or shame of someone you may love telling you it’s over.
To be given the slipper is the worst thing. It may come at an unexpected time. Or maybe you expect it and get giddy every time your partner suggests going out for coffee or a walk somewhere unfamiliar. Whatever the reason or the way it happens, finding out that someone thinks you’re bad at being in a relationship is never a good feeling.
Whether it’s happened to you before or not, it never hurts to prepare for the moments when you’re handed the slippers. Getting your thoughts in order about how to behave is a good way to avoid ending up looking like a big sucker.
DON’T GET DRUNK
This is tip number one with a purpose. Alcohol and emotionally intense conversations do not go hand in hand. So if you think the guillotine is coming, don’t get drunk beforehand, and if you’re talking in a bar and the breakup discussion starts, don’t empty your glasses to better cope with the news. You’ll regret it the next morning when you wake up without a partner and with a long-lasting hangover.
DO NOT SCREAM
A simple rule that you’d hope most people would follow anyway, but don’t scream. Especially in public. And that doesn’t mean you have to hide your reaction—you might cry or say some hurtful words, and that’s okay, but unless you’re reading this in your grade school computer lab, you’re long past the age where it’s acceptable to you scream
Yelling at someone when they try to break up with you is a simple way to show the person who is leaving you that they have reason to be happy. And you’ll look like a jerk in the end.
From a vibe similar to what I said above. It’s about protecting yourself as much as it is about not putting the other person through a painful ordeal.
Begging your partner to give the relationship another chance or to stay together can be a bit pathetic. As much as it may seem easier to be on the other side, that person thought before making the decision and begging them to change their mind most likely won’t work in the moment or in the …